I can't shake the feeling that my husband might be gay, and it's been driving me crazy.
We've been married for years now, and don't get me wrong, there's still love between us. But lately, I've noticed some signs that have left me feeling confused and concerned. It's like there's a puzzle I can't solve, and every piece I find just adds to the uncertainty.
The first inkling came when I noticed him pulling away physically. Our intimate moments became few and far between, and he seemed distant during those times. I tried to be understanding, thinking it could be stress or work-related, but my gut told me there was something more going on.
Admittedly, I let my insecurities get the best of me and wondered if he might be cheating. So, Iput on my detective hat and snooped through his phone while he was sleeping. But to my relief, I found nothing suspicious in his texts.
A month later, we were in his car driving, and a number was calling. He didn't answer the call. But about a minute later, the number called again. I asked him if he was going to answer, and he told me he doesn't know who is calling and doesn't answer numbers that he doesn't know. Since I was still in dative mode, I took a mental note of the number as I could see the number on his car phone.
As soon as I got home, I added the number to my contact list and went straight to WhatsApp to see if there was a profile for the person. To my surprise, there was indeed a profile, and it was a male, so I was relieved, and I had no reason to be insecure about a male, or so I thought.
One Saturday evening, we were in the living room just chilling and watching TV when again my husband's phone rang, and I could see it was the same number, and again he didn't answer the call, the first, second, and third time. Then a WhatsApp text message came in on his phone, and he got up and told me he was going to get something from his car.
Here is where things got interesting: he went into the car, but as soon as he turned the car on, the call was connected to the Bluetooth, and as you can suspect, I was standing at the front door, hearing the conversation. I don't think he saw me. The male voice was cursing him, asking why he was ignoring his call and how long he had to wait. That was all I heard because my husband took the phone off Bluetooth.
I was trying to be open-minded and not jump to conclusions, but I couldn't ignore my gut feeling. So, during the night when he was sleeping, I took the phone wand and went into the bathroom. I searched for the number and went to 'reading". I looked at a call log, and my husband talks to the man at least four times per day or more. There are naked photos of the guy saved as "starred messages".
I was in shock; my period, which was a week out, came instantly. I have nothing personally against a guy, but I am numb. I am trying to build up the nerve to confront my husband, and I don't know where to begin. I’m not sure what to do or think. I need your help!